Habits, oh, those bad habits. Habits are acquired from influences, observance, practices, and mostly fear. We receive many patterns throughout our life, some good and others not. You may want to uphold good habits, but if you’re going to enhance your life, the practices that activate your system need to be worked with, not removed, as they will return with a vengeance.  Eliminating bad habits, however, is complex, especially if a dependency is involved. For this reason, you need to learn how to change your practices and work with your internal system, which created these habits in the first place.

People can often wander through life making excuses. Anytime someone sees something that may appear complex or complicated, they'll frequently make excuses for not dealing with the issue. This is a challenging problem in the world, which we’ve heard of many times. If you want to improve your life, you need to admit to yourself that there are parts of your psyche that are holding you back. Be curious with those parts without judgement.         

The first step to success is to quit making excuses. You can commit by choosing a new habit.

The first habit people want to change is judgement. They say, “Today, I'm going to quit judging other people and myself.” This is a standard mistake people make in the world. They spend time labeling other people and themselves. This gets them nowhere other than more irritation, anger or sadness. It would be advisable to work with the part of your psyche that judges you and others and understand why it does this, not just ‘quit it.’ Quitting, is like gaslighting a part of yourself.        

Do you think negatively? “I can’t alter this,” “My life is full of crap.” “I can’t take this any longer.” “Why me?” If you spend your life believing and making negative statements, attempt to look at that. For example, you can say, “I may change something, and I'm going to as I'm curious to see what may happen.” Rather than saying life is full of nonsense and accepting it as truth.  The way to move forward to improve your life is by accessing the parts of you that believe the negative statements. They have something they would like to communicate with you. You may be surprised at their response.          

Once you access parts of yourself that have been holding you back with an open, curious heart, you will immediately make changes to improve your life; start small. Rather than jumping the gun, take little steps to success. Too many times, individuals try to change overnight. This only leads to frustration and a complete sense of overwhelm activating the system and creating a sense of being unsafe.        

When you're working to change your life and habits, seek support and feedback. You don't have to walk the path to success alone. Ask somebody you trust to support you and provide you feedback. You can buddy up with a friend and ask them to give you honest feedback about how they see you. You will hear their view of you and see the parts of you that are activated as you listen. 

It takes courage, but I know you are courageous, and it’s one small step to creating harmony in your life. You deserve it, we all deserve it, and it is ours for the taking. 

In abundant love and kindness for all gentle souls

Angela xox